Parenting kids why in the marines

So when I found out that we would be having our first baby JOY was the first thing that came to mind. Then there was the question on how do you parent a kid?!?! I had babysat lots but it was never up to me on how they would be, and what to have them act like, on a day to day life. So Matthew and I started talking and watching other's with their kids and finding things that we like and things that we new we did not like at all.

1. We do will not say "NO" - Reason would be that I would want my kids to know why not and not just because I said so. And we did it the for the first one, now with tow kids it's a little harder but we are still doing it as much as we can. And an added bounces was that Jessalla our oldest did not do the "NO" phase like most little kids do, and we were so glad with that. Not so lucky with Eammah baby number two, with big sister telling her no all the time it was hard not to have her pick it up. I'm glad that to say that we have this and when people hear they think we will have spoild little kids, but that's ok.

2. We do not to "time-out" - We call it "regrouping" and this way we can use it when the they are good to maybe just a little round-up or on a surge high! Or it's something that they can say that they need a break and just go to the "regrouping" place. But one other thing that we did was if they do something "bad" they can not get up till we talk about it, and they say that they are sorry if they need to. We want them to know why they are there, and why we do not want them to do it any more.

So far I think we would have those even if we were not in the marines, but the next few I'm not sure if we would or not.

3. Our kids must use titles when talking to people - Ma'am and Sir when they are talking to someone that they may or may not know. And when talking to someone they know like me it's yes mom, or no mom. We do not feel like having them call us ma'am and Sir but want them to show respct to everyone that they come in contact with. It makes things go better and can help make a bad thing be come a little better. And when a family member ask them to do something we anwser with a "Yes Grandma" (If that's who was asking something of them.

Those are the three big ones that we have, that I feel make us who we are. We have others things that come in to play that will make our kids ours in the end. But they are just little things, like "up and under" and no SBSP! And it works for our family